EP. 15: Second Adolescence as…the Drawing of Our Own Blueprint
June 2, 2022
This week’s guest is artist Brandon Rumaker (they/them). In sharing their individual story, Brandon highlights so many gems about the greater collective queer experience. They share about their challenging childhood and adolescence, illustrating the different contortions and acts of assimilation our younger queer selves do to hide marginalized identities we hold. They then share about beginning to come out as gay in high school after having access to online queer spaces (shout out AIM) and about the complicated experience they had as a peer educator with their high school’s Gay Straight Alliance. They go on to share about how so much of their Second Adolescence has been about healing, as it is for all of us. They talk about healing from intergenerational trauma and how this impacted their own relationship to sex and sexuality and queerness, healing from internalized oppressive belief structures, and the healing that comes with gaining those first romantic and sexual experiences missed out on in adolescence. They then share about the pandemic igniting a chapter of meaningful internal work that led to inquiry about their true gender identity, and how they are settling into experiencing life as a continuous healing, unlearning, and growing. They also share about the synchronistic moment they found very podcast at a particularly poignant part of their own journey. This was such a powerful conversation, I’m so excited to invite you into it!
About the guest:
Brandon Rumaker (they/them) is a queer, non-binary, gay multidisciplinary creative who creates communal experiences via theater, film, performance art, event facilitation, creativity coaching and tarot for people to examine identity, expand their self-definition, and find clarity. Most of Brandon's work is informed by queer experiences and questions rigid standards of identity while searching for answers (and receiving more questions in the process) surrounding safety, power dynamics, family structures, technology, mental health, relationships, secret-keeping, creativity, and finding acceptance as an outsider.
They recently developed new work as part of the Spring 2022 Writer's Lab at Exquisite Corpse Co. Their next adventure is participating in the Stillwright Silent Writing Retreat in July 2022. They are also a peer counselor at Identity House, an LGBTQIA+ volunteer service based in NYC.
You can follow Brandon and their work on Instagram: @brandotheoriginal.
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